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Yes, there was time and a way to save Karen’s life.
Karen Denise Thomas was married to Terrence Thomas for 12 years before he choked her to death, drove to a bridge then dumped her body in the Loosahatchie River. On Oct 12, 2012 Terrence falsely filed a missing person report on his wife saying she had left but had not said where she was going. On Monday the 15th her car was found in the parking lot of the Garden Ridge store. On Thursday the 18th her body was discovered floating face down in the Loosahatchie River. After her body was found and Terrence was questioned by police and admitted he’d strangled his wife and dumped her body.
Terrence is charged with first-degree murder and false offense reporting. And set to be arraigned Monday, Oct 22, 2012.
Her life could have been saved. Allegedly, over the 12 years of marriage upwards of 6 domestic violence reports were made. Sadly, no charges were ever made. So there was no prosecution. This is a case of what I call, domestic blinders, the ol’ rose-colored glasses syndrome. The victim likely thought it was all her fault, he was a good man, it won’t happen again, I upset him.
Had Karen read Susan Murphy Milano’s books, in particular ‘Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships’ she may have saved her own life. She could have utilized Chapter 4 and gotten out safely. She’d have learned she wasn’t at fault- She was the one being abused because she’d have learned what an abuser is and how they abuse. And if her friends and family had read the books they’d have seen what was happening and recognized it for what it was. They’d have recognized Terrence for what he was, a potential killer.
Showing posts with label Domestic Violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Domestic Violence. Show all posts
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Saturday, October 13, 2012
The Domestic Violence Incident of Joshua Franklin
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Thursday, October 11, near 5 P.M. in Leon County, Florida on Wekewa Nene Road , Robert J. Simmons-Godwin and Latonya Askew were killed. The two had gone to one of Latonya’s friends, Tamisha Berger boyfriend’s home after she received a call and plea to come and pick up Tamisha. Tamisha had informed Latonya that her boyfriend, Joshua Franklin, had hit her. When Godwin and Askew arrived at Franklin’s home he met them with a gun in hand and began shooting. Franklin then left the home and in his rush to get away ran over Godwin’s body. Askew was shot twice.
I do not know if LE had previous calls from Tamisha concerning any violence toward her by Franklin but the Leon County, Florida law enforcement is treating this shooting as a domestic violence situation. Apparently Mr. Franklin does have a volatile personality, he has a history with police and was on probation for armed robbery and carrying a concealed firearm.
Joshua Franklin is now in jail with no bond and charged with murder and gun related accounts.
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Thursday, October 11, near 5 P.M. in Leon County, Florida on Wekewa Nene Road , Robert J. Simmons-Godwin and Latonya Askew were killed. The two had gone to one of Latonya’s friends, Tamisha Berger boyfriend’s home after she received a call and plea to come and pick up Tamisha. Tamisha had informed Latonya that her boyfriend, Joshua Franklin, had hit her. When Godwin and Askew arrived at Franklin’s home he met them with a gun in hand and began shooting. Franklin then left the home and in his rush to get away ran over Godwin’s body. Askew was shot twice.
I do not know if LE had previous calls from Tamisha concerning any violence toward her by Franklin but the Leon County, Florida law enforcement is treating this shooting as a domestic violence situation. Apparently Mr. Franklin does have a volatile personality, he has a history with police and was on probation for armed robbery and carrying a concealed firearm.
Joshua Franklin is now in jail with no bond and charged with murder and gun related accounts.
Friday, January 27, 2012
Donald Greenslit and The Death of Stacie DeSantis-Dorego
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From what I can gather the fire department and police were called to a home in Johnston, Rhode Island. Smoke was billowing from a chimney and neighbors were concerned. When the firefighters arrived, they found Donald Greenslit standing in the driveway screaming profanities, saying he didn’t need them, he was just burning wood in his fireplace. Firefighters put out his fire but what they found wasn’t just wood burning. They discovered the remains of a dismembered female wrapped in cloth and burnt. The deceased was found to be 39-year-old Stacie DeSantis-Dorego mother of Greenslit’s two small children Jake, 5; Lily, 3 and another daughter Mackenzie, age 14. The children were at home when Greenslit allegedly killed and dismembered then attempted to destroy her body but thankfully didn’t witness the events that led to her death. The police also discovered Donald wasn’t supposed to be at the home. He’d committed a couple DV incidents against Stacie and a no contact order had been issued on him. Now Donald is charged with her murder, violating the no contact order and child abuse. Child abuse because he endangered the children with smoke inhalation when he attempted to destroy Stacie’s body by burning it in the fireplace.
Donald Greenslit confessed to killing Stacie but he says it was self-defense because she attacked him. I hope he never sees sunshine without stripes hindering his view from behind bars. This is a case I will keep an eye on so my readers and, me too, will know when it goes to trial. Stacie was a wonderful young lady who was an aspiring writer and loved her children. She deserves justice. Stacie said her children were her soul. I wish I had gotten to know her better. My deepest and most sincere condolences go out to her children, family and friends.
Friday, October 14, 2011
The Topeka 8
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The past few days I have been unable to put feelings in word with this horrific event. Even now, I feel I haven't expressed myself the way I want over this. I feel I could never really do so but thought I must try to at least say something on the matter - for the victims’ sake.
Due to all I have read and heard about the sham of a city council and the mayor I call these 8 persons ‘Enablers’. ( And it’s hard to call them persons) They need tee-shirts printed, declaring ‘I am one of the Topeka 8 - You Do Not Count. The 8 are facilitators of domestic violence and in essence have become abusers themselves. It’s not alleged but a fact -the vote the 8 cast this month takes away the victims’ right to assistance with the horrors they face. It’s said 30 abuse suspects were freed after the decriminalizing of domestic violence. And I am angry. I hope the citizens of Shawnee County, Kansas are angry too. I have a right through the constitution to speak my opinion of these ‘things’ called Topeka mayor and council members and I am doing so. You, too, have a right to contact them and speak your anger about this demoralizing victims of domestic violence. The victims have been thrown to the wolves.
I laughed when I googled Topeka, Kansas and came across their city government pages.
http://www.topeka.org/tpd/crime_victims_assistance.shtml
Here is a list of what is on the page listed above:
Types of crime we can offer assistance with:
Domestic Violence
Burglary
Battery
Identity Theft
Robbery
Sexual Violence
Assault
Criminal Damage
Stalking
Child Abuse
Theft
Hate Crimes
Workplace Violence
Graffiti
All the above can bestruck through. Because You Do Not Matter. This list needs to be wiped off the web page because it’s a farce. None of the list is applicable now, not since the Topeka 8 legalized domestic violence in the name of allegedly saving money. Each one of the crimes listed are part of how abusers operate. Not all abusers, but far too many to not strike through the crimes listed. Women and children of Topeka Kansas and yes, even men are no longer protected.
I cringe when I think of a child in Topeka crying because mommy and daddy, or mom and her boyfriend are screaming at each other. I think, maybe the abuser hitting the child’s mommy- demoralizing her verbally as mom cringes in a corner. I think of an elderly person silently screaming inside, why are you doing this to me? I wonder if she is thinking, I am your mother while she is being screamed at, threatened or hit. Perhaps both the child or elderly citizen reaches for a phone then yanks their hand back as if being struck by lightning because it dawns on them- There’s No One to Help. No One Cares. I Do Not Count. You want the names of the Topeka 8 abusers who do not care about the children or elderly, nor the spouses, girlfriend/boyfriend who are abused? Warning! Be ready to be shocked, Women Are On The List. Go Here: http://claudinedombrowski.blogspot.com/2011/10/topeka-voted-tonight-to-decriminalized.html
Keep this abuse by the mayor and members of the city council forefront in the news. Do Not Forget come election time.
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The past few days I have been unable to put feelings in word with this horrific event. Even now, I feel I haven't expressed myself the way I want over this. I feel I could never really do so but thought I must try to at least say something on the matter - for the victims’ sake.
Due to all I have read and heard about the sham of a city council and the mayor I call these 8 persons ‘Enablers’. ( And it’s hard to call them persons) They need tee-shirts printed, declaring ‘I am one of the Topeka 8 - You Do Not Count. The 8 are facilitators of domestic violence and in essence have become abusers themselves. It’s not alleged but a fact -the vote the 8 cast this month takes away the victims’ right to assistance with the horrors they face. It’s said 30 abuse suspects were freed after the decriminalizing of domestic violence. And I am angry. I hope the citizens of Shawnee County, Kansas are angry too. I have a right through the constitution to speak my opinion of these ‘things’ called Topeka mayor and council members and I am doing so. You, too, have a right to contact them and speak your anger about this demoralizing victims of domestic violence. The victims have been thrown to the wolves.
I laughed when I googled Topeka, Kansas and came across their city government pages.
http://www.topeka.org/tpd/crime_victims_assistance.shtml
Here is a list of what is on the page listed above:
Types of crime we can offer assistance with:
Domestic Violence
Burglary
Battery
Identity Theft
Robbery
Sexual Violence
Assault
Criminal Damage
Stalking
Child Abuse
Theft
Hate Crimes
Workplace Violence
Graffiti
All the above can be
I cringe when I think of a child in Topeka crying because mommy and daddy, or mom and her boyfriend are screaming at each other. I think, maybe the abuser hitting the child’s mommy- demoralizing her verbally as mom cringes in a corner. I think of an elderly person silently screaming inside, why are you doing this to me? I wonder if she is thinking, I am your mother while she is being screamed at, threatened or hit. Perhaps both the child or elderly citizen reaches for a phone then yanks their hand back as if being struck by lightning because it dawns on them- There’s No One to Help. No One Cares. I Do Not Count. You want the names of the Topeka 8 abusers who do not care about the children or elderly, nor the spouses, girlfriend/boyfriend who are abused? Warning! Be ready to be shocked, Women Are On The List. Go Here: http://claudinedombrowski.blogspot.com/2011/10/topeka-voted-tonight-to-decriminalized.html
Keep this abuse by the mayor and members of the city council forefront in the news. Do Not Forget come election time.
Monday, August 1, 2011
Two Recent Cases: Spouse/Boyfriend Allegedly Couldn't or Didn't Want To Let Go
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In Houston, TX at the home of Robyn Hightower, a 22 year-old mother of 3, an apparent argument broke out over the phone between her and her abusive boyfriend, Ervin Jones, of several years. It’s said Robin wanted to end the relationship and move on with her life. Allegedly Ervin wasn't wanting to let go and later that same night stormed into the home. It’s said that another argument ensued and several shots were fired, one hit Robyn in the chest, causing her death. Ervin fled the scene.
Robyn's brother, standing outside the home with the children, heard the gunshots and ran into the home. Robyn was lying on her stomach in a pool of blood. He grabbed his sister up and rushed her to the hospital but she died a little later.
Ervin was later discovered at a gas station with a gunshot wound and was transported to the hospital. Whether or not he was accidentally shot during a struggle or deliberately is unknown. But one weapon was found inside the home. He was charged with murder in Robyn’s death. Ervin has a long history of violence, including assault of 2 female family members and murder of a man in 1989.
A mother of 2 and school teacher, Irene Mickens, had apparently filed for divorce from her controlling husband in hopes of moving on with her life. But, ( the buts always show up) on Tuesday July 12, 2011, her estranged husband and father of her 7 and 5 year old children, called her. Allegedly he told Irene in that call their daughter was seriously ill. Irene drove to his apartment in Sandy Springs but her daughter wasn't there, Jamal Mickens was and he had a 9 mm semi-automatic handgun.
Both their bodies were later found. Irene had been shot in the head.
Of note: I think Jamal and Irene's relationship was doomed from the beginning. He allegedly controlled her movements, who she was in contact with and who she couldn't see. She had filed for divorce and a restraining order in 2009 but had stopped it and tried to make a go of their marriage. Jamal had gone to anger management classes.
But back in November of 2010 she decided it was over and again filed for divorce. At that time she moved in with her sister in Charlotte and began putting the pieces of her life back together.
Both of these cases are tragic and examples of how bad relationships spin out of control. Had both read and utilized Time's Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano just maybe their lives could've been saved. Why is it always too late? This book needs to be available to all victims and/or potential victims of domestic violence.
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In Houston, TX at the home of Robyn Hightower, a 22 year-old mother of 3, an apparent argument broke out over the phone between her and her abusive boyfriend, Ervin Jones, of several years. It’s said Robin wanted to end the relationship and move on with her life. Allegedly Ervin wasn't wanting to let go and later that same night stormed into the home. It’s said that another argument ensued and several shots were fired, one hit Robyn in the chest, causing her death. Ervin fled the scene.
Robyn's brother, standing outside the home with the children, heard the gunshots and ran into the home. Robyn was lying on her stomach in a pool of blood. He grabbed his sister up and rushed her to the hospital but she died a little later.
Ervin was later discovered at a gas station with a gunshot wound and was transported to the hospital. Whether or not he was accidentally shot during a struggle or deliberately is unknown. But one weapon was found inside the home. He was charged with murder in Robyn’s death. Ervin has a long history of violence, including assault of 2 female family members and murder of a man in 1989.
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A mother of 2 and school teacher, Irene Mickens, had apparently filed for divorce from her controlling husband in hopes of moving on with her life. But, ( the buts always show up) on Tuesday July 12, 2011, her estranged husband and father of her 7 and 5 year old children, called her. Allegedly he told Irene in that call their daughter was seriously ill. Irene drove to his apartment in Sandy Springs but her daughter wasn't there, Jamal Mickens was and he had a 9 mm semi-automatic handgun.
Both their bodies were later found. Irene had been shot in the head.
Of note: I think Jamal and Irene's relationship was doomed from the beginning. He allegedly controlled her movements, who she was in contact with and who she couldn't see. She had filed for divorce and a restraining order in 2009 but had stopped it and tried to make a go of their marriage. Jamal had gone to anger management classes.
But back in November of 2010 she decided it was over and again filed for divorce. At that time she moved in with her sister in Charlotte and began putting the pieces of her life back together.
Both of these cases are tragic and examples of how bad relationships spin out of control. Had both read and utilized Time's Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano just maybe their lives could've been saved. Why is it always too late? This book needs to be available to all victims and/or potential victims of domestic violence.
Friday, July 29, 2011
The Alleged Attack by Steven Ford on Ladonia Burns
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Steven Ford broke the glass door to gain entry after stomping a puppy to death and brutally attacked his girlfriend, Ladonia Burns. His brutality was, according to him, because she wouldn’t go get him more beer. He used knives to hold her hostage, beat her about her head and could’ve drowned her when he stuck her head in the toilet tank. Ford admitted to breaking in the door and ‘stepping’ on the puppy but had the nerve to blame his violence on alcohol!
There is no excuse Mr. Ford!
Mrs. Burns said beer wasn’t mentioned, he came home and began demanding she obey him. She said she went into the house. And that was when he stomped the puppy’s head, broke the glass door in front of her home, and attacked her. Mrs. Burns said he was also threatening to kill her and he may have done so if her parents hadn’t arrived.
Steven Ford is charged with assault and domestic violence. But, I sure hope they add animal abuse to those charges. He’s under a 50,000 dollar bond. I pray Ford doesn’t bond out, go whining back apologetically and her take him back. Sadly, that has happened in many cases after attacks of domestic violence even when it's as vicious as this alleged attack. Please someone purchase a copy of a book for her called: Time’s Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano
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Steven Ford broke the glass door to gain entry after stomping a puppy to death and brutally attacked his girlfriend, Ladonia Burns. His brutality was, according to him, because she wouldn’t go get him more beer. He used knives to hold her hostage, beat her about her head and could’ve drowned her when he stuck her head in the toilet tank. Ford admitted to breaking in the door and ‘stepping’ on the puppy but had the nerve to blame his violence on alcohol!
There is no excuse Mr. Ford!
Mrs. Burns said beer wasn’t mentioned, he came home and began demanding she obey him. She said she went into the house. And that was when he stomped the puppy’s head, broke the glass door in front of her home, and attacked her. Mrs. Burns said he was also threatening to kill her and he may have done so if her parents hadn’t arrived.
Steven Ford is charged with assault and domestic violence. But, I sure hope they add animal abuse to those charges. He’s under a 50,000 dollar bond. I pray Ford doesn’t bond out, go whining back apologetically and her take him back. Sadly, that has happened in many cases after attacks of domestic violence even when it's as vicious as this alleged attack. Please someone purchase a copy of a book for her called: Time’s Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Michi Nogami-Marshall's Domestic Violence Arrest and Brandon Marshall
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I'll be interested to see what the outcome is of Brandon and Michi Nogami-Marshall's newest domestic violence incident. Trouble has allegedly spewed between these two for several years, both have a part in it.
Brandon’s been arrested several times with domestic-related incidents over the past few years; most of those charges were either dismissed, reduced or dropped. Allegedly his football career suffered in 2008 with a one-game suspension. Also in 2008, he received is said to have suffered a serious injury after smashing a television in his home.
Again allegedly, back in 2009 they arrested both Brandon and Michi Nogami on charges of disorderly conduct, after having a lively 'argument' and kicking and punching each other on the sidewalk. Those charges were also dropped.
Sadly, they have apparently dropped charges with too many arguments and neither Brandon or Michi Nogami have learned from them. This time Michi Nogami allegedly stabbed Brandon with a knife. Brandon had said he was hit with a vase, but his wound spoke differently.
Michi Nogami Marshall is facing aggravated battery with deadly weapon charges. Hopefully, this time, the courts will answer with, ‘no, we will not drop or reduce charges, you will go to court and answer for your crime’.
This incident will likely not hurt Brandon's career in football, many DV incidents in famous people's families don't. What a shame someone with talent like his, he irrevocably stains it with so much violence. If the DV incidents are true, not only does his stain his career, he allows and continues to participate in violence at his home.
I think these two have some serious anger going. So, Perhaps these two should agree to part ways permanently with all the 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander' ceasing post-haste.
Michi Nogami is out on a bond at this time. Hopefully we won’t discover Brandon perpetrated violence against her that night too. But, would anyone really be surprised?
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I'll be interested to see what the outcome is of Brandon and Michi Nogami-Marshall's newest domestic violence incident. Trouble has allegedly spewed between these two for several years, both have a part in it.
Brandon’s been arrested several times with domestic-related incidents over the past few years; most of those charges were either dismissed, reduced or dropped. Allegedly his football career suffered in 2008 with a one-game suspension. Also in 2008, he received is said to have suffered a serious injury after smashing a television in his home.
Again allegedly, back in 2009 they arrested both Brandon and Michi Nogami on charges of disorderly conduct, after having a lively 'argument' and kicking and punching each other on the sidewalk. Those charges were also dropped.
Sadly, they have apparently dropped charges with too many arguments and neither Brandon or Michi Nogami have learned from them. This time Michi Nogami allegedly stabbed Brandon with a knife. Brandon had said he was hit with a vase, but his wound spoke differently.
Michi Nogami Marshall is facing aggravated battery with deadly weapon charges. Hopefully, this time, the courts will answer with, ‘no, we will not drop or reduce charges, you will go to court and answer for your crime’.
This incident will likely not hurt Brandon's career in football, many DV incidents in famous people's families don't. What a shame someone with talent like his, he irrevocably stains it with so much violence. If the DV incidents are true, not only does his stain his career, he allows and continues to participate in violence at his home.
I think these two have some serious anger going. So, Perhaps these two should agree to part ways permanently with all the 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander' ceasing post-haste.
Michi Nogami is out on a bond at this time. Hopefully we won’t discover Brandon perpetrated violence against her that night too. But, would anyone really be surprised?
Saturday, March 19, 2011
The DV Murder of Michael Taylor
I have wondered at times if people who die in the early morning hours noticed the sunset, the stars, or nature’s beauty the night before. I wondered that about Michael Taylor, a 39-year-old maintenance supervisor for Fogelman Management Group, in Memphis, Tennessee when I read of his early morning death.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009 Michael was shot twice, once in the heart and once about two inches behind the right ear, allegedly during an argument. When his wife, Pamela Taylor contacted police around 9 A.M., she advised a man had been shot in the chest. The police arrived to discover her husband deceased. They took Pamela to the station and charged her on Christmas Eve with second degree murder. On December 28, 2010, they arraigned Pamela via video.
In March of 2010 during a preliminary hearing in domestic violence court, the Judge amended the second degree murder to voluntary manslaughter charge. Pamela’s bond was set for 100000.00.
According to a nearby resident in the apartment complex the visit that fatal morning wasn’t the first time police units had been to the home. His comment has me wondering if domestic violence was an ongoing issue. I haven’t discovered anything concerning it- if that was the reason for previous police presence at the Taylor home.
The DA’s Office sent the case to the grand jury and they indicted her on premeditated first-degree murder. Missy Branham, the state prosecutor, asked for a bond increase and more restrictions to be placed on Pamela. Apparently in a few short months she’d moved several times. Pamela’s lawyer, Andre Wharton, argued that his client had kept up with the bonding agent as ordered by court and wasn’t a flight risk. Wharton allegedly stated Pamela wants her story told. Criminal Court Judge Paula Skahan increased the bond to 150000.00. Pamela has to check in with court authorities three times per week and wear a GPS monitor.
This case has premeditation written all over it to me, the reason she made the decision to shoot her husband twice is a question only she can answer. But allegedly she purchased the gun the day before her husband was shot; he was shot twice, allegedly she had the gun in the sleeve of her sweatshirt and shot him. And too, I wonder why Pamela neglected to advise police that her husband had been shot in the head as well as the chest when she made the call that fateful morning.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
The Accused Edwin Coello’s Violence and Tina Adovasio’s Death
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This is a classic case with domestic violence prominent in the accused previous and present marital history.
Hello! Warning signs!
Edwin Coello lost his police officer job in 2000 due to domestic violence allegations during his first marriage.
In 2006 Tina Adovasio contacted police about Edwin’s violence against her, they charged him, but he was allowed to plea and got a conditional discharge. In 2007 he attacked her and she was hospitalized. UGH!
According to an article written in http://www.nydailynews.com/ Tina’s mom said Coello had beat Tina a couple years ago so badly she had to get stitches and had two black eyes.
In one of the cases of Edwin Coello attacking Tina she was holding their then one-year-old child in her arms; he grabbed the phone from her and threw it against the wall a couple times. His rage wasn’t abated yet so he proceeded to knock the stereo and trophies to the floor. He admitted to this later and excused his actions, including the hole in the wall as ‘I was pissed off.’ Yep, now isn't that just the greatest of reasons to cause such damage, frighten a baby and cause extreme emotional harm to his wife!
In Feb of this year Tina filed for divorce and got an order of protection.
Edwin Coello contested the divorce.
On March 11 of this year Tina disappeared.
On Monday 14, 2011 police picked up Edwin but released him hours later after they asked to search his car. The cops had wanted to search his car.
On Tuesday the police were able to seize his car for search.
On Wed Feb 15 Tina’s body was found in woods in Westchester County.
Folks, if you are in a violent relationship, know anyone who is going through abuse of any kind including emotional abuse then please, advise them or see they get a copy of the book: ‘Time’s Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano
Many books exists on abuse and many organizations can help abuse victims. Including the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Yes, I do recommend you contact an organization. But Susan’s book is a must get, must read book in my opinion.
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This is a classic case with domestic violence prominent in the accused previous and present marital history.
Hello! Warning signs!
Edwin Coello lost his police officer job in 2000 due to domestic violence allegations during his first marriage.
In 2006 Tina Adovasio contacted police about Edwin’s violence against her, they charged him, but he was allowed to plea and got a conditional discharge. In 2007 he attacked her and she was hospitalized. UGH!
According to an article written in http://www.nydailynews.com/ Tina’s mom said Coello had beat Tina a couple years ago so badly she had to get stitches and had two black eyes.
In one of the cases of Edwin Coello attacking Tina she was holding their then one-year-old child in her arms; he grabbed the phone from her and threw it against the wall a couple times. His rage wasn’t abated yet so he proceeded to knock the stereo and trophies to the floor. He admitted to this later and excused his actions, including the hole in the wall as ‘I was pissed off.’ Yep, now isn't that just the greatest of reasons to cause such damage, frighten a baby and cause extreme emotional harm to his wife!
In Feb of this year Tina filed for divorce and got an order of protection.
Edwin Coello contested the divorce.
On March 11 of this year Tina disappeared.
On Monday 14, 2011 police picked up Edwin but released him hours later after they asked to search his car. The cops had wanted to search his car.
On Tuesday the police were able to seize his car for search.
On Wed Feb 15 Tina’s body was found in woods in Westchester County.
Folks, if you are in a violent relationship, know anyone who is going through abuse of any kind including emotional abuse then please, advise them or see they get a copy of the book: ‘Time’s Up: A guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships by Susan Murphy Milano
Many books exists on abuse and many organizations can help abuse victims. Including the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Yes, I do recommend you contact an organization. But Susan’s book is a must get, must read book in my opinion.
Monday, July 19, 2010
Domestic Violence: Fortunately, the Victims Lived
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Tuesday, July 13, Salih Kocher waited in his car on the corner of Meredith Drive and Beaver Avenue and followed his wife, Ayah Moneer, into a parking lot. Kocher then exited his car and with flowers in hand (that, allegedly, in Muslim faith, is something one give to someone who is about to die ) and walked toward her. He then broke the driver’s side window and dragged her from the vehicle. "Today is the day you are going to die and I'm going to die," he was said to have told Ayah. He told her this while holding a meat cleaver to her throat then attempted to push her into his vehicle. Fortunately a witness to the violent act called 911 and kept the dispatcher updated on what was happening until police could arrive on the scene. During the struggle for her life, Ayah received lacerations on her hand. But Ayah kept talking to Salih and he dropped the meat cleaver but he continued dragging her by the hair across the lot toward the courtyard.
When police arrived, he was arrested then charged with kidnaping, domestic assault with a weapon, and burglary causing bodily injury. And since Ayah had a restraining order out on him he was also charged with the violation of a no-contact order.
http://www.desmoinesregister.com/
If it is a truth that Salih has consent to kill his wife, I hope she takes the initiative and keeps herself safe from him or others who wish her fatal bodily harm. I would also highly recommend she read an article written by Anny Jacoby: Fight or Flight Response: We All Have It… Anny is a Certified PDR (Personal Defense Readiness) Instructor. The article can be read at her online blog site: http://annyjacoby.wordpress.com Salih needs to familiarize herself with the steps to defend herself and learn self-protection techniques in the event of another attack.
Tuesday, July 13 a Staten Island woman, Tammy Robinson, felt Douglas Parsley was unfit to drive because he’d had too much to drink. The two argued, and Tammy, with her daughter and a friend of the daughter, got out the car while they were at a gas station in Holmdel. Douglas proceeded to drive away and attempted to run over his wife and the children. Parsley then fled the scene. Police were called and they spotted Parsley’s car. When they tried to stop him, Parsley failed to stop and the police gave a chase. Once they apprehended him, he was charged with aggravated assault, endangering the welfare of a child, and drunken driving. Parsley is under a $100,000 bond. Apparently he also had active warrants out on him from Aberdeen Municipal Court for driving with a suspended license and Atlantic City Municipal Court for disorderly conduct.
I hope he stays in jail for a very long time and Tammy finds safety away from his violent nature.
http://www.courierpostonline.com
Both of these women need to run; it’s imperative they run as safely as they can from their abusers. ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships by: Susan Murphy Milano can help them do just that.
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Tuesday, July 13, Salih Kocher waited in his car on the corner of Meredith Drive and Beaver Avenue and followed his wife, Ayah Moneer, into a parking lot. Kocher then exited his car and with flowers in hand (that, allegedly, in Muslim faith, is something one give to someone who is about to die ) and walked toward her. He then broke the driver’s side window and dragged her from the vehicle. "Today is the day you are going to die and I'm going to die," he was said to have told Ayah. He told her this while holding a meat cleaver to her throat then attempted to push her into his vehicle. Fortunately a witness to the violent act called 911 and kept the dispatcher updated on what was happening until police could arrive on the scene. During the struggle for her life, Ayah received lacerations on her hand. But Ayah kept talking to Salih and he dropped the meat cleaver but he continued dragging her by the hair across the lot toward the courtyard.
When police arrived, he was arrested then charged with kidnaping, domestic assault with a weapon, and burglary causing bodily injury. And since Ayah had a restraining order out on him he was also charged with the violation of a no-contact order.
http://www.desmoinesregister.com/
If it is a truth that Salih has consent to kill his wife, I hope she takes the initiative and keeps herself safe from him or others who wish her fatal bodily harm. I would also highly recommend she read an article written by Anny Jacoby: Fight or Flight Response: We All Have It… Anny is a Certified PDR (Personal Defense Readiness) Instructor. The article can be read at her online blog site: http://annyjacoby.wordpress.com Salih needs to familiarize herself with the steps to defend herself and learn self-protection techniques in the event of another attack.
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Tuesday, July 13 a Staten Island woman, Tammy Robinson, felt Douglas Parsley was unfit to drive because he’d had too much to drink. The two argued, and Tammy, with her daughter and a friend of the daughter, got out the car while they were at a gas station in Holmdel. Douglas proceeded to drive away and attempted to run over his wife and the children. Parsley then fled the scene. Police were called and they spotted Parsley’s car. When they tried to stop him, Parsley failed to stop and the police gave a chase. Once they apprehended him, he was charged with aggravated assault, endangering the welfare of a child, and drunken driving. Parsley is under a $100,000 bond. Apparently he also had active warrants out on him from Aberdeen Municipal Court for driving with a suspended license and Atlantic City Municipal Court for disorderly conduct.
I hope he stays in jail for a very long time and Tammy finds safety away from his violent nature.
http://www.courierpostonline.com
Both of these women need to run; it’s imperative they run as safely as they can from their abusers. ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships by: Susan Murphy Milano can help them do just that.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Intimate Partner Domestic Violence Deaths
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You can open the paper any day of the week and read of violent crimes but the ones of domestic violence ending in death of one of the parties involved are the ones that caught my eye recently.
Tuesday, July 13, in the Queens’ area of New York firefighters were called to a Springfield Garden home to battle a fire. Inside the home they discovered a 26-year- old deceased pregnant woman, Linda Anderson and her 2-year-old child, Ayden Hayes. The child was transported to the hospital but died later. During the investigation of the fire they discovered the origin of the fire was near the couch. Neighbors said they couldn’t the smoke or flames but could smell it.
The person who called in the fire was Jimmy Humphrey, Linda’s ex-boyfriend and the alleged father of her unborn child. During police questioning Humphrey allegedly admitted he’d pushed Linda down and knocked over a bottle of nail polish remover onto a candle which set her on fire. He called in the fire but he gave the wrong address. He also admitted he ran home to sleep. I have to wonder if the nail polish remover incident was a deliberate act. If the fire was unintentional then he could’ve easily put it out and called for help for Linda, her son Ayden, and perhaps have saved her unborn child too.
Humphrey is charged with arson and assault but at his arraignment on Friday did not enter a plea.
The next court appearance is set for August 2.
http://www.ny1.com
http://wcbstv.com
Tuesday, July 13 a call to 911 concerning a vehicular accident sent police to the Gravely Springs community of Lauderdale Co., Al. There they found the body of Tammy Woods in her car and dead from multiple gunshot wounds.
Tammy Woods, it's believed, went to the home to collect a few of her belongings but an argument ensued between Tammy and her estranged husband, Tony Randall Woods. LE believes Tammy ran for her life and Tony fired at her as she attempted to drive away; Tony fired at least five times, striking the car in the door, window, trunk and a tail light. The two had numerous domestic violence issues in the past.
Tony is charged with capital murder and is in Lauderdale County Detention Center without bail. He was arraigned on Wednesday and attorneys were appointed.
http://www.timesdaily.com
www.whnt.com
Wednesday, July 14 in Huntsville, Madison Co., Ala., a 911 call sent police to Dan Tibbs Road. When they arrived on the scene, LE discovered the deceased body of Mary Jeffries. Her husband, Arthur Jeffries allegedly advised that he’d shot her. Domestic violence issues had been an issue in the past between the two. Arthur was charged with murder and is under a $50,000 bond.
http://www.waff.com
Do I believe these women’s deaths could’ve been avoided? Yes. In at least two of the cases, they’d had previous domestic violence issues. Had Mary Jeffries and Tammy Woods read ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships they could’ve learned how to safely walk away and not look back. Had Linda Anderson read the book she’d have known how to spot the violent attribute her boyfriend possessed. Jimmy Humphrey has allegedly admitted he hit her; that admittance, considering she was pregnant, tells me that he had no caring for the unborn child or real love for Linda. I have to wonder if he’d abused her in the past, before that fateful day she died.
But what really bothers me are comments under the articles in media with some D.V. cases, including Tammy Woods death. Comments from posters allege that divorce is costly for men more than the wife and blame the spouse, court system, family court judges and others for spouses turning to murder. Claiming many women trap men into marriage and control the situation when children are involved! That type comment infuriates me and is totally ludicrous. Guess what, it takes two to say the vows and it takes two to make a baby! In fact, the reason women are being murdered is no ones’ fault but the murderer himself. His inability to control his anger is the reason, not the courts! Yes, the courts do need a wider look at, especially in child abuse situations (and too, when a husband abuses his spouse the children experience emotional abuse also) but that’s not to say the courts are the cause of intimate partner murders.
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You can open the paper any day of the week and read of violent crimes but the ones of domestic violence ending in death of one of the parties involved are the ones that caught my eye recently.
Tuesday, July 13, in the Queens’ area of New York firefighters were called to a Springfield Garden home to battle a fire. Inside the home they discovered a 26-year- old deceased pregnant woman, Linda Anderson and her 2-year-old child, Ayden Hayes. The child was transported to the hospital but died later. During the investigation of the fire they discovered the origin of the fire was near the couch. Neighbors said they couldn’t the smoke or flames but could smell it.
The person who called in the fire was Jimmy Humphrey, Linda’s ex-boyfriend and the alleged father of her unborn child. During police questioning Humphrey allegedly admitted he’d pushed Linda down and knocked over a bottle of nail polish remover onto a candle which set her on fire. He called in the fire but he gave the wrong address. He also admitted he ran home to sleep. I have to wonder if the nail polish remover incident was a deliberate act. If the fire was unintentional then he could’ve easily put it out and called for help for Linda, her son Ayden, and perhaps have saved her unborn child too.
Humphrey is charged with arson and assault but at his arraignment on Friday did not enter a plea.
The next court appearance is set for August 2.
http://www.ny1.com
http://wcbstv.com
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Tammy Woods, it's believed, went to the home to collect a few of her belongings but an argument ensued between Tammy and her estranged husband, Tony Randall Woods. LE believes Tammy ran for her life and Tony fired at her as she attempted to drive away; Tony fired at least five times, striking the car in the door, window, trunk and a tail light. The two had numerous domestic violence issues in the past.
Tony is charged with capital murder and is in Lauderdale County Detention Center without bail. He was arraigned on Wednesday and attorneys were appointed.
http://www.timesdaily.com
www.whnt.com
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Wednesday, July 14 in Huntsville, Madison Co., Ala., a 911 call sent police to Dan Tibbs Road. When they arrived on the scene, LE discovered the deceased body of Mary Jeffries. Her husband, Arthur Jeffries allegedly advised that he’d shot her. Domestic violence issues had been an issue in the past between the two. Arthur was charged with murder and is under a $50,000 bond.
http://www.waff.com
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Do I believe these women’s deaths could’ve been avoided? Yes. In at least two of the cases, they’d had previous domestic violence issues. Had Mary Jeffries and Tammy Woods read ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships they could’ve learned how to safely walk away and not look back. Had Linda Anderson read the book she’d have known how to spot the violent attribute her boyfriend possessed. Jimmy Humphrey has allegedly admitted he hit her; that admittance, considering she was pregnant, tells me that he had no caring for the unborn child or real love for Linda. I have to wonder if he’d abused her in the past, before that fateful day she died.
But what really bothers me are comments under the articles in media with some D.V. cases, including Tammy Woods death. Comments from posters allege that divorce is costly for men more than the wife and blame the spouse, court system, family court judges and others for spouses turning to murder. Claiming many women trap men into marriage and control the situation when children are involved! That type comment infuriates me and is totally ludicrous. Guess what, it takes two to say the vows and it takes two to make a baby! In fact, the reason women are being murdered is no ones’ fault but the murderer himself. His inability to control his anger is the reason, not the courts! Yes, the courts do need a wider look at, especially in child abuse situations (and too, when a husband abuses his spouse the children experience emotional abuse also) but that’s not to say the courts are the cause of intimate partner murders.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Domestic Abuse and Stephanie Lewis
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Domestic Violence is more than marital discord. It’s serious and often creates scenarios where a police search for missing spouse or girlfriend, presumed deceased. One such instance is Danielle T. Brown of Leon CO., FL. Her body has yet to be found. Her alleged killer is in jail for torching her car.
Fortunately for Stephanie Lewis of Jackson, TN., the outcome was that her life was spared - barely.
Stephanie Lewis’s estranged husband, Derrick allegedly kidnaped her from The Jackson Clinic Friday, July 2, 2010. Her Country’s Independence weekend celebration wasn’t spent enjoying good food and setting off fireworks with friends and family. She had fireworks of her own to deal with; mainly, surviving hours of horror in a hot closet of a vacant home with no electricity while she was hogtied and gagged.
Of course they looked at Derrick first as the POI because back in April of 2010 he was alleged to have attacked Stephanie, have charges brought against him and then bond out of jail.
When the police located Derrick Friday night he ran and they gave a chase on foot; after capture and during questioning he told them where they could find Stephanie. They di d find Stephanie around 2:00 Saturday morning at the location he advised she'd be, but she was dehydrated from spending hours in the dark hot closet, without water. We are yet to discover what else Derrick Lewis put her through in the hours before LE took him in for questioning.
Fortunately, the previous bond has been revoked; a bond of 500,000 has been set with the aggravating kidnaping charges though. Eluding a police officer should be added to those charges, if they haven’t already. And I feel he shouldn’t be allowed to bond out, to me he’s a flight risk since he ran from LE when they located him; more important, to me, he is a risk to Stephanie’s safety.
Sadly, prison time (if a true bill is found by the grand jury and in trial he is found guilty on all charges) will not be long enough, he won’t spend that many years locked behind bars. Not only will the sentence he’s given not punishment enough, it’s also possible Stephanie will not be advised of his release when his sentence in over or he is paroled. Nor will it mean he won’t stew while locked up and continue blame Stephanie for his faults.
Stephanie could do well to check out Susan Murphy Milano’s book, ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships. Although LE knows the history of Derrick Lewis’s abusive past - again sadly, it doesn’t mean they could find anything substantial should Stephanie go missing in the future and become another of the many unfound missing persons like Danielle Brown.
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Domestic Violence is more than marital discord. It’s serious and often creates scenarios where a police search for missing spouse or girlfriend, presumed deceased. One such instance is Danielle T. Brown of Leon CO., FL. Her body has yet to be found. Her alleged killer is in jail for torching her car.
Fortunately for Stephanie Lewis of Jackson, TN., the outcome was that her life was spared - barely.
Stephanie Lewis’s estranged husband, Derrick allegedly kidnaped her from The Jackson Clinic Friday, July 2, 2010. Her Country’s Independence weekend celebration wasn’t spent enjoying good food and setting off fireworks with friends and family. She had fireworks of her own to deal with; mainly, surviving hours of horror in a hot closet of a vacant home with no electricity while she was hogtied and gagged.
Of course they looked at Derrick first as the POI because back in April of 2010 he was alleged to have attacked Stephanie, have charges brought against him and then bond out of jail.
When the police located Derrick Friday night he ran and they gave a chase on foot; after capture and during questioning he told them where they could find Stephanie. They di d find Stephanie around 2:00 Saturday morning at the location he advised she'd be, but she was dehydrated from spending hours in the dark hot closet, without water. We are yet to discover what else Derrick Lewis put her through in the hours before LE took him in for questioning.
Fortunately, the previous bond has been revoked; a bond of 500,000 has been set with the aggravating kidnaping charges though. Eluding a police officer should be added to those charges, if they haven’t already. And I feel he shouldn’t be allowed to bond out, to me he’s a flight risk since he ran from LE when they located him; more important, to me, he is a risk to Stephanie’s safety.
Sadly, prison time (if a true bill is found by the grand jury and in trial he is found guilty on all charges) will not be long enough, he won’t spend that many years locked behind bars. Not only will the sentence he’s given not punishment enough, it’s also possible Stephanie will not be advised of his release when his sentence in over or he is paroled. Nor will it mean he won’t stew while locked up and continue blame Stephanie for his faults.
Stephanie could do well to check out Susan Murphy Milano’s book, ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships. Although LE knows the history of Derrick Lewis’s abusive past - again sadly, it doesn’t mean they could find anything substantial should Stephanie go missing in the future and become another of the many unfound missing persons like Danielle Brown.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Too Late for Tonya Michelle Turnmire to Utilize 'Time's Up'
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According to the police, the relationship between Tonya Michelle Turnmire and Ray Christopher Shockley was riddled with domestic violence incidents. On Friday, June 4, 2010 Michelle (as she was called) left her job at Y-Mart in Boaz, Ala., and drove to the home she shared with Ray in Albertville, Ala..
Michelle was not seen alive again.
The next day Michelle’s family called the police and reported her missing. Law enforcement spoke to Shockley several times in reference to her missing but it wasn’t until June 19 when Shockley was taken in for more questioning that he confessed and led police to where he’d dumped Michelle’s body. Law enforcement converged on a wooded area just off U.S. Highway 431 in the Rockledge community of Etowah County that’s often used as a dump site. Michelle’s remains were taken to Huntsville for autopsy.
On Monday, June 21 after a press conference confirming Shockley had been arrested, close friends of Michelle’s released heart-shaped balloons in her honor. One balloon was gold star-shaped.
Tonya Michelle could have benefitted from a gold star -book by Susan Murphy Milano - ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships had she knew about it prior to June 4, 2010. Her case speaks loudly as to how valuable this book could be to domestic violence victims and how LE Departments everywhere need to utilize it. It reeks of the need for them to at least advise abused victims of its existence, if not give them a copy of Chapter 4: Declaration of Independence (Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit). I am of the belief that it’s imperative all domestic violence victims have access to this book, that even if they don’t believe their life is in danger from their abuser, (and sadly many do not believe they could die at the hands of their spouse or boyfriend) they need to keep records of the abuse and keep it in a safe place.
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According to the police, the relationship between Tonya Michelle Turnmire and Ray Christopher Shockley was riddled with domestic violence incidents. On Friday, June 4, 2010 Michelle (as she was called) left her job at Y-Mart in Boaz, Ala., and drove to the home she shared with Ray in Albertville, Ala..
Michelle was not seen alive again.
The next day Michelle’s family called the police and reported her missing. Law enforcement spoke to Shockley several times in reference to her missing but it wasn’t until June 19 when Shockley was taken in for more questioning that he confessed and led police to where he’d dumped Michelle’s body. Law enforcement converged on a wooded area just off U.S. Highway 431 in the Rockledge community of Etowah County that’s often used as a dump site. Michelle’s remains were taken to Huntsville for autopsy.
On Monday, June 21 after a press conference confirming Shockley had been arrested, close friends of Michelle’s released heart-shaped balloons in her honor. One balloon was gold star-shaped.
Tonya Michelle could have benefitted from a gold star -book by Susan Murphy Milano - ‘Time’s Up’- A Guide How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships had she knew about it prior to June 4, 2010. Her case speaks loudly as to how valuable this book could be to domestic violence victims and how LE Departments everywhere need to utilize it. It reeks of the need for them to at least advise abused victims of its existence, if not give them a copy of Chapter 4: Declaration of Independence (Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit). I am of the belief that it’s imperative all domestic violence victims have access to this book, that even if they don’t believe their life is in danger from their abuser, (and sadly many do not believe they could die at the hands of their spouse or boyfriend) they need to keep records of the abuse and keep it in a safe place.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Time's Up - A Book of Distinction
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Until Susan Murphy Milano educated us all on the meaning of the term ‘Domestic Abuse,’ and it's long term effect on women and children of the abused, anytime we heard of LE going to a home where a husband and wife were 'arguing,' one slapped the other stuff is the way we viewed it. Marital discord, family spat, heated argument - those were the terms we read and believed was truth in these situations. The incidents were nothing more than a shrug and head shake of ‘shame on them disgust,’ and quickly forgotten.
I read another blog piece on ‘Psychology Today,’ praising this book and the author, Robin Sax, mentioned OJ Simpson. That mention got me to thinking; I can’t remember spouse abuse of any kind being seriously discussed on talk shows before the OJ trial. Before the murder trial, when OJ Simpson beat on Nicole and she called the cops, they basically overlooked and did not really see abuse for what it really was, domestic violence; they saw him as the great football hero, Nicole as the argumentative wife with an attitude. Unfortunately, we saw domestic violence that way throughout the US long before they made Nicole’s abuse public; wives had an attitude and they were just ungrateful. The first question spouses were and, sadly, often still asked is 'What did You do to deserve it?' That question makes my blood pressure rise! In truth, wives do nothing to deserve it! Nobody deserves to be hit or beaten in any way. Now we see 'marital discord' that becomes physical for what it is - Abuse! And it's abuse that could, and too often does, escalate to murder.
Women (and men who are abused) need ‘Time’s Up’. They not only need to read it, to think about their own situations, but need to be proactive and protect themselves and their children from an abuser. I think of Micah Pate, killed in April of 2009, and wonder how often or if she was abused by her husband, Thomas, prior to her murder. He claims accidental shooting but, (and that is a huge but) his story doesn’t add up in my mind. I think Micah could have greatly benefitted from ‘Time’s Up’ and it’s roadmap of advice.
‘Time’s Up’ is the best gift a person can give a friend whom they believe is in an abusive relationship. Teens need this book; teens abusing their girlfriend or boyfriend are more prevalent than many realize. Verbal, emotional and physical abuse is escalating in teens.
To quote Robin Sax - To say that Susan Murphy Milano has hit the nail on the head (again) is a total understatement! How true! That is more than an understatement; Susan has hit the nail dead-center, choreographed a life-saving-roadmap for the abused. No word can adequately express or exemplify how important ‘Time’s Up’ is for victims of abuse.
'Time's Up' is more than a manual, a handbook, it’s more than just another book, it’s a ‘Lifesaver,’ a surefire roadmap chocked full of ways to document evidence and protect yourself; in protecting yourself, you are also protecting your children from a life with an abuser. Hopefully, we will eventually see a copy of ‘Time’s Up’ in every library, every police department, every school, every church and every shelter where those who need help can utilize it and protect themselves from an abuser.
(I hope I haven't infringed on copyrights by using the 'Time's Up' bookcover graphic. If so, I heartily apologize and will be happy to delete)
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I read another blog piece on ‘Psychology Today,’ praising this book and the author, Robin Sax, mentioned OJ Simpson. That mention got me to thinking; I can’t remember spouse abuse of any kind being seriously discussed on talk shows before the OJ trial. Before the murder trial, when OJ Simpson beat on Nicole and she called the cops, they basically overlooked and did not really see abuse for what it really was, domestic violence; they saw him as the great football hero, Nicole as the argumentative wife with an attitude. Unfortunately, we saw domestic violence that way throughout the US long before they made Nicole’s abuse public; wives had an attitude and they were just ungrateful. The first question spouses were and, sadly, often still asked is 'What did You do to deserve it?' That question makes my blood pressure rise! In truth, wives do nothing to deserve it! Nobody deserves to be hit or beaten in any way. Now we see 'marital discord' that becomes physical for what it is - Abuse! And it's abuse that could, and too often does, escalate to murder.
Women (and men who are abused) need ‘Time’s Up’. They not only need to read it, to think about their own situations, but need to be proactive and protect themselves and their children from an abuser. I think of Micah Pate, killed in April of 2009, and wonder how often or if she was abused by her husband, Thomas, prior to her murder. He claims accidental shooting but, (and that is a huge but) his story doesn’t add up in my mind. I think Micah could have greatly benefitted from ‘Time’s Up’ and it’s roadmap of advice.
‘Time’s Up’ is the best gift a person can give a friend whom they believe is in an abusive relationship. Teens need this book; teens abusing their girlfriend or boyfriend are more prevalent than many realize. Verbal, emotional and physical abuse is escalating in teens.
To quote Robin Sax - To say that Susan Murphy Milano has hit the nail on the head (again) is a total understatement! How true! That is more than an understatement; Susan has hit the nail dead-center, choreographed a life-saving-roadmap for the abused. No word can adequately express or exemplify how important ‘Time’s Up’ is for victims of abuse.
'Time's Up' is more than a manual, a handbook, it’s more than just another book, it’s a ‘Lifesaver,’ a surefire roadmap chocked full of ways to document evidence and protect yourself; in protecting yourself, you are also protecting your children from a life with an abuser. Hopefully, we will eventually see a copy of ‘Time’s Up’ in every library, every police department, every school, every church and every shelter where those who need help can utilize it and protect themselves from an abuser.
(I hope I haven't infringed on copyrights by using the 'Time's Up' bookcover graphic. If so, I heartily apologize and will be happy to delete)
Sunday, February 7, 2010
The Shandra Rodems Case
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In May of 2009 Shandra Rodems and her husband argued outside a Fresno bank. Shandra keyed her husband's truck door. She and her husband were separated at the time but the truck was registered in both her and her husband's name.
Shandra Rodems works for the Fresno Fire Department and her husband, Kennan, is a Fresno police officer.
The DA charged Shandra with felony vandalism in with the incident. But, in July of 09 the Judge dropped the charges to a misdemeanor. She had offered to pay for the damages and wrote her husband a 1000.00 dollar check but the prosecution refused to allow her to pay the vandalism damages.
The felony charges, according to Shandra, stemmed from payback with her rating to internal affairs on her supervisors about harassment in 06 while she worked for the police crime scene team.
From what I gather from Lopez's articles on this case, Shandra's attorney had filed a motion claiming selective prosecution. He wanted proof from over 300 previous cases that they pursued those cases as diligently with felony charges as Shandra's case.
The Judge ruled that the Fresno PD and Fresno County DA's office must turn over any evidence that supports her claim. The prosecution didn't do that. They claimed it would be too costly and time consuming. The Judge set a Feb 4th date to see if the DA's office had complied.
Now, the DA's Office has dropped the charges against Shandra. But, what I am wondering is, will the DA still have to turn over all those investigative documents on the previous cases since Shandra's civil case against them will continue?
One other note of interest in this whole sham of charges is that in July of 09 they made and submitted an investigation to DA's office that Kennan Rodems harassed Shandra on the phone and banged on her window. Allegedly that was being investigated also. The Deputy Chief said: "When we submit a case for prosecution, we believe there is probable cause that a crime was committed."
Why hasn't the harassment been publicized like the felony (later dropped to misdemeanor charges) were? I've read nothing about whether they had put on Kennan paid or unpaid leave during the investigation of the accusations.
Even the previous DA stated the keyed vehicle incident lacked domestic violence -- but does the harassing calls Kennan made to her?
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/crime/story/1797825.html?storylink=mirelated
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/story/1799423.html?storylink=mirelated
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/crime/story/1752409.html?storylink=mirelated
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In May of 2009 Shandra Rodems and her husband argued outside a Fresno bank. Shandra keyed her husband's truck door. She and her husband were separated at the time but the truck was registered in both her and her husband's name.
Shandra Rodems works for the Fresno Fire Department and her husband, Kennan, is a Fresno police officer.
The DA charged Shandra with felony vandalism in with the incident. But, in July of 09 the Judge dropped the charges to a misdemeanor. She had offered to pay for the damages and wrote her husband a 1000.00 dollar check but the prosecution refused to allow her to pay the vandalism damages.
The felony charges, according to Shandra, stemmed from payback with her rating to internal affairs on her supervisors about harassment in 06 while she worked for the police crime scene team.
From what I gather from Lopez's articles on this case, Shandra's attorney had filed a motion claiming selective prosecution. He wanted proof from over 300 previous cases that they pursued those cases as diligently with felony charges as Shandra's case.
The Judge ruled that the Fresno PD and Fresno County DA's office must turn over any evidence that supports her claim. The prosecution didn't do that. They claimed it would be too costly and time consuming. The Judge set a Feb 4th date to see if the DA's office had complied.
Now, the DA's Office has dropped the charges against Shandra. But, what I am wondering is, will the DA still have to turn over all those investigative documents on the previous cases since Shandra's civil case against them will continue?
One other note of interest in this whole sham of charges is that in July of 09 they made and submitted an investigation to DA's office that Kennan Rodems harassed Shandra on the phone and banged on her window. Allegedly that was being investigated also. The Deputy Chief said: "When we submit a case for prosecution, we believe there is probable cause that a crime was committed."
Why hasn't the harassment been publicized like the felony (later dropped to misdemeanor charges) were? I've read nothing about whether they had put on Kennan paid or unpaid leave during the investigation of the accusations.
Even the previous DA stated the keyed vehicle incident lacked domestic violence -- but does the harassing calls Kennan made to her?
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/crime/story/1797825.html?storylink=mirelated
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/story/1799423.html?storylink=mirelated
http://www.fresnobee.com/local/crime/story/1752409.html?storylink=mirelated
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Personal Entry: I Care
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“Human action can be modified to some extent, but human nature cannot be changed.” Abraham Lincoln
I care about victims of domestic violence; they have seen and unseen bruises on their bodies; they walk around with sore or broken bones and sometimes make an excuse for their abusers. They blame themselves while living in fear of their spouse coming home, knowing he or she will find faults with the smallest of things. The abused person walks a thin thread; they hide in shadows of rooms and hallways while praying the abuser won’t notice them, that the abuser’s anger won’t rear its ugly head; praying he or she had a good day and no one from work caused them to be frustrated or made them have to go out their way to deal with a situation they didn’t like.
The victims are emotionally captive in their spouses’, their abusers darkness, victims of their environment. Sadly many - too many - feel alone, not knowing where to turn or where to go for help.
We cannot change the abusers’ nature!
I care about the abused child, the ones whose parents treat like an inanimate object that’s a possession not heard, only seen. The ones whose parent slides into their bed at night, those kicked, picked up and thrown against walls, onto furniture or on the ground. The child who lives with the pain of broken bones, the ones who live with both visible and invisible bruises they are scared to show, scared to talk about. The ones who don’t know who to trust because the ones they should trust are violent toward them. The ones violently yanked from their homes, off the streets, the school yards, in the stores and other places where they should be safe. I care.
I care that children and domestic violence victims are not safe because predators stalk the streets while the laws protect the abusers’ rights; I care that the children and domestic violence victims are second class to the abusers’ in the eyes of the laws. I care about all victims no matter their gender, race, economic status, or religious beliefs.
The time has come! The time to tell all the Aldermen, Members of Congress, District Attorneys, Governors, Judges, Mayors, Senators, and Town Council Members in every city, county, parish and town of this great free country that if they don’t care too, they will not get our vote in the future. The time has come to ask when they knock on our door asking for our vote what their stance on domestic violence and child abuse is; what they will do to help the victim, put the abused first. The time to tell all of them that if they don’t battle for laws to protect the victims, to help law enforcement deal with the violence of domestic abuse and child predators that they are not speaking for us. We voted for them to carry our voice, speak for us, and they are miserably failing us. The time has come to ask the President to stand up for victims; to stand on the floor of Congress and the floor of the Senate and demand a review of the laws surrounding domestic violence and child abuse; to tell the lawmakers he demands the victims’ rights heard and that to put victims’ rights first in their minds. Above all, that he demands protection laws written that will put the abused above the rights of their abusers! We cannot change an abuser’s nature!
Child predators will always be child predators, child abusers. They cannot change their nature! We cannot change who they are. The darkness is a volcano deep inside their heart and soul, sometimes the volcano is quiet and dormant but it is always there; its ashes the victims; its fire the rage. The time has come to keep child abusers under lock and key, to keep them off the streets walking in freedom! Likewise, the time has come to keep violent domestic abusers in jail, if they did it once they will do it again! We cannot change their nature! They live in darkness and that darkness is who they are inside, what they are. They are abusers!
The time has come to demand change. The time has come to make sure our children do not have to battle for their children’s rights against predators and abusive spouses. The battle is ours, for them, the ones presently abused and the future abused. The time has come to tell, to show, all the abused we care!
Giving abusers medicines and sending them to anger management and other counseling programs will not change the abusers’ nature!
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“Human action can be modified to some extent, but human nature cannot be changed.” Abraham Lincoln
I care about victims of domestic violence; they have seen and unseen bruises on their bodies; they walk around with sore or broken bones and sometimes make an excuse for their abusers. They blame themselves while living in fear of their spouse coming home, knowing he or she will find faults with the smallest of things. The abused person walks a thin thread; they hide in shadows of rooms and hallways while praying the abuser won’t notice them, that the abuser’s anger won’t rear its ugly head; praying he or she had a good day and no one from work caused them to be frustrated or made them have to go out their way to deal with a situation they didn’t like.
The victims are emotionally captive in their spouses’, their abusers darkness, victims of their environment. Sadly many - too many - feel alone, not knowing where to turn or where to go for help.
We cannot change the abusers’ nature!
I care about the abused child, the ones whose parents treat like an inanimate object that’s a possession not heard, only seen. The ones whose parent slides into their bed at night, those kicked, picked up and thrown against walls, onto furniture or on the ground. The child who lives with the pain of broken bones, the ones who live with both visible and invisible bruises they are scared to show, scared to talk about. The ones who don’t know who to trust because the ones they should trust are violent toward them. The ones violently yanked from their homes, off the streets, the school yards, in the stores and other places where they should be safe. I care.
I care that children and domestic violence victims are not safe because predators stalk the streets while the laws protect the abusers’ rights; I care that the children and domestic violence victims are second class to the abusers’ in the eyes of the laws. I care about all victims no matter their gender, race, economic status, or religious beliefs.
The time has come! The time to tell all the Aldermen, Members of Congress, District Attorneys, Governors, Judges, Mayors, Senators, and Town Council Members in every city, county, parish and town of this great free country that if they don’t care too, they will not get our vote in the future. The time has come to ask when they knock on our door asking for our vote what their stance on domestic violence and child abuse is; what they will do to help the victim, put the abused first. The time to tell all of them that if they don’t battle for laws to protect the victims, to help law enforcement deal with the violence of domestic abuse and child predators that they are not speaking for us. We voted for them to carry our voice, speak for us, and they are miserably failing us. The time has come to ask the President to stand up for victims; to stand on the floor of Congress and the floor of the Senate and demand a review of the laws surrounding domestic violence and child abuse; to tell the lawmakers he demands the victims’ rights heard and that to put victims’ rights first in their minds. Above all, that he demands protection laws written that will put the abused above the rights of their abusers! We cannot change an abuser’s nature!
Child predators will always be child predators, child abusers. They cannot change their nature! We cannot change who they are. The darkness is a volcano deep inside their heart and soul, sometimes the volcano is quiet and dormant but it is always there; its ashes the victims; its fire the rage. The time has come to keep child abusers under lock and key, to keep them off the streets walking in freedom! Likewise, the time has come to keep violent domestic abusers in jail, if they did it once they will do it again! We cannot change their nature! They live in darkness and that darkness is who they are inside, what they are. They are abusers!
The time has come to demand change. The time has come to make sure our children do not have to battle for their children’s rights against predators and abusive spouses. The battle is ours, for them, the ones presently abused and the future abused. The time has come to tell, to show, all the abused we care!
Giving abusers medicines and sending them to anger management and other counseling programs will not change the abusers’ nature!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Personal Blog Entry
Of Whom I Admire
You've heard people say, 'It's my nature’ - well, it's time to listen to your nature instinct, to stand up for the rights of victims everywhere who suffer from verbal and physical abuse. The wind's gentle breeze hears nature's whispers - and those of the lonely, the hurt, the lost, the defenseless. Susan Murphy-Milano listens to hers. Do you?
Go here - http://peace4themissing.blogspot.com/ read 'Blue Defends Blue' - take a moment to reflect on paragraph 8 and the part that reads 'I never compromise an investigation or a victim's life.' I am of the belief that a truer statement has never been written. Through all months I have followed Susan Murphy-Milano's Journal at http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/, her articles on 'Women In Crime Ink', and listened to the BTR show 'Justice Interrupted' that she co-hosts with Robin Sax and Stacy Dittrich, I have never known her to say or write anything that I, as a follower and blogger, a non cop, feel could hinder LE in any way with an investigation. I have never felt she said anything on her show http://www.blogtalkradio.com/SusanMurphyMilano either. All I hear is how those in need of domestic violence help, how those spouses of abusing cops, can detail the abuse they experience on a daily basis and who to turn to for help to stop the abuse.
Susan is an advocate of the abused. She is there for them when others turn their back. She fights for them, the abused spouses of LE Officers - those cases that are clear-cut abuse cases, not just the accusations of someone who wants to dirty her or his spouse's name. And if in that battle it means taking down an alleged 'good cop's' name within his or her department if that cop is abusing his spouse and children, then so be it - Victims have rights too!
Let hope and pray that no one ever successfully puts a muzzle on Susan's voice or her pen.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/SusanMurphyMilano
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/justiceinterrupted
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/
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