tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930321701027598889.post3162249102426540908..comments2024-01-05T21:06:37.634-06:00Comments on TigressPen's Surmisals: Is Caring- That Human, And Parental Instinct, Out of Commission?TigressPenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10486657532479733143noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930321701027598889.post-11214959060346381822009-06-24T13:24:49.770-05:002009-06-24T13:24:49.770-05:00Maureen,
You make perfect sense with how the abus...Maureen,<br /><br />You make perfect sense with how the abusers and killers of our children are the few and not the many. And that doesn't make it hurt for the children any less, does it. Sadly, I am doubtful we'll ever have a world where family violence isn't a factor. <br /><br />I know schools have a program where kids take a programed doll home and have to give it all the care an infant needs. And that is a good thing. I agree also that we need to teach parenting skills a little more vehemently. But, how could we ascertain the at risk without being accused of profiling specific groups. It's a no win situation. I think it simply needs to go back to what you alluded to - being a role model makes a role model. <br /><br />I read a few days ago where a biological dad and his wife (Joshua and Brandy Sawyer) caused his child's death by blunt force trauma. The child, Carly, was starved and suffered violence by restraint. The biological mother and dad had divorced and she'd filed abuse charges against him with social services during a visit. She also took Carly back home with her, and to her parents. Joshua filed for and received custody and the grandparents were forced to return Carly to dad and his new wife. The whole story hasn't been told yet but one doesn't need psychic abilities to read between the lines or see what was warning signs of the 'could happen.' <br /><br />You can read of this case here: http://hamptonroads.com/2009/06/girl-had-been-subject-custody-fight-relative-says<br /><br />I have to wonder if education in parenting could've helped - or if it'd have shown his and Brandy's violent tendencies before little Carly was placed in their custody or even born. <br /><br />Thank you my friend for the read and comments. We just have to keep remembering what you said about so much more good existing. <br /><br />TPTigressPenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10486657532479733143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930321701027598889.post-18352056854381745492009-06-24T12:50:34.995-05:002009-06-24T12:50:34.995-05:00Delilah
You are so right. The murder of our chil...Delilah<br /><br />You are so right. The murder of our children at the hands of those entrusted with their care is a sad state of affairs. Unfortunately, it's also one where we aren't likely to see positive ending. Parents kill for their own selfish reasons. The if I can't have her/him then you can't either - or she/he wouldn't stop crying - and, too, so many claim mental illness as the reason. None of these reasons are just cause for abuse and murder of an innocent child. No just cause exist. <br /><br />I just keep praying. <br /> <br />Thank you so much for your comments. I greatly appreciate them. <br /><br />TPTigressPenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10486657532479733143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930321701027598889.post-54670445988491413812009-06-21T13:29:29.676-05:002009-06-21T13:29:29.676-05:00Your words were so heart wrenching, so sad. But, u...Your words were so heart wrenching, so sad. But, unfortunately the public hears the bad and rarely ever gets to see the good. Rarely ever gets to see the role models.<br /><br />I've watched two of my daughters take on the challenge of being single parents. One daughter just this past January, my grandson was 5 years old by that time, marry the love of her life. I watched her and my son-in-law blend a family where they put the children above all else. Good parents, great parents! Involved actively in their children's schools and sports and every aspect of their children's lives. Respect and love and happiness reigns in their blended family. I watch my other daughter make amazing choices for her and her 7 month old son. People out in the public are drawn to her and her son as their interaction is beautiful to observe. One happy baby and one happy Mom. I never have to worry about my grandsons as my daughters are role model parents.<br /><br />How did they get that way? They were brought up knowing they are loved and respected. They were brought up knowing what was expected of them. They were brought up knowing they are not door mats. They were brought up knowing that above all else you respect life at every stage from beginning to death. They were brought up in a home that discussions reigned on pointing out media stories on good behaviors as well as bad behaviors. Discussions on what if this happened to you ... how would you handle it?<br /><br />Too often now days young parents are handed a baby in the hospital, maybe given a demonstration on how to give a bath and then turned out to make their way in the world. Not all these young people came from homes where they had good role models. Isn't it high time we started teaching parenting classes in the schools, human growth and development classes, etc.? Isn't it high time we had good mentoring programs in place that follow at risk parents and activiely take part in teaching these parents how to develop the skills to become great parents? Wow what a vicious circle would be broken as their children would then be able to carry good parenting skills down to their children someday.<br /><br />For all the bad we hear about there is so much more good out there ... it's time to start pointing out the good, to use the good as a teaching tool.<br /><br />Maureendesksidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088540502298589085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930321701027598889.post-21227338460238670852009-06-21T12:37:17.673-05:002009-06-21T12:37:17.673-05:00Tigress, this is a sad state of affairs in our soc...Tigress, this is a sad state of affairs in our society and so many have become desensitized to the violence occurring all around them. Some days it's so hard to think about them all as individuals and remembering them all in our prayers is the best we can do.<br /><br />Thank you for being the concerned and thoughtful person that you are. <br /><br />Much love.........Delilah<br />http://peace4missing.ning.comDelilahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09129593439262648032noreply@blogger.com